Why It’s Okay to Skip New Year’s Resolutions

As we welcome in 2025, there’s always a buzz about setting resolutions: lose weight, save more money, start that side hustle. While the intention behind resolutions can be positive, they often come with a side of pressure, anxiety, and guilt—especially if and when they don’t last.

I believe - no, I know - it is perfectly okay, even healthy, to skip the tradition of setting resolutions. Let’s talk about why. Last year, I decided to not set any resolutions for 2024 because resolutions often made me believe I needed to change myself or be different to be better. Here’s a little insight into my reasoning.

Reasons to set no resolutions for 2025.

Resolutions Can Create Unnecessary Anxiety

Resolutions often come with the idea that you must achieve them to have a “successful” year. This pressure can lead to feelings of failure if you don’t stick to your goals perfectly. For many, the fear of not meeting expectations outweighs the excitement of the goal itself, creating unnecessary anxiety right at the start of the year.

Most Resolutions Don’t Last

Studies show that most New Year’s resolutions are abandoned by February. Why? Because they’re often rooted in external pressure rather than intrinsic motivation. When resolutions are vague, overly ambitious, or disconnected from your current lifestyle, they’re hard to sustain.

You Don’t Need January 1st to Start Fresh

The idea that you need a specific date to change your life can be limiting. Growth happens throughout the year, often in small, meaningful steps. By focusing on ongoing progress rather than a single resolution, you give yourself the freedom to adapt and evolve without the weight of a deadline.

Self-Compassion Is Far More Valuable Than Perfection

Instead of setting resolutions, consider practicing self-compassion. Acknowledge where you are and celebrate your growth, no matter how grand or small. Life isn’t about achieving perfection—it’s about learning, growing, and finding what truly fulfills you.

If you’re looking for a fresh approach, consider these options:

Set Intentions

Rather than setting specific goals, choose a word or theme to guide your year. Remember, this needs to be something authentic to you and your journey. Words like “balance,” “gratitude,” “courage,” or “connection” can serve as kind reminders of what matters most to you.

An intention provides direction without the rigidity of a resolution. It allows for adaptability and can be woven into various aspects of your life. For example, if your theme is “balance,” you might focus on creating harmony between work and personal life, or if it’s “gratitude,” you could cultivate a daily gratitude practice.

Focus on habits

Instead of aiming for big, sweeping changes, focus on building small, sustainable habits that align with your values. These habits should be realistic, manageable, and easily integrated into your daily routine.

For example:

• If you want to place a stronger focus on your health, start with a 10-minute walk each day or add a serving of vegetables to your meals.

• If self-care is a priority, establish a consistent bedtime or schedule 15 minutes of “me time” daily.

• For personal growth, commit to reading one page of a book or journaling for five minutes each day.

Small habits are the building blocks of meaningful change. By focusing on one manageable habit at a time, you can create momentum and see progress without feeling overwhelmed. Over time, these habits compound, leading to a lasting positive impact on your life.

Reflect periodically

Reflection allows you to assess your progress, adjust your focus, and celebrate small wins along the way.

Here’s how you can incorporate reflection into your routine:

• Monthly Check-Ins: Set aside time at the end of each month to ask yourself questions like, “What went well?” “What challenges did I face?” and “What do I want to focus on next month?”

• Gratitude Practice: Reflect on things you’re grateful for regularly. This helps you stay grounded and motivated.

• Track Growth: Keep a journal or use an app to note small achievements and lessons learned.Consider group therapy

Final Thoughts

Skipping resolutions doesn’t mean you’re not motivated or ambitious. It means you’re prioritizing your mental health and recognizing that meaningful change comes from consistent effort, not a once-a-year declaration.

I encourage you to approach the new year with self-compassion and curiosity. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or anxious about what’s ahead, our expert therapists are here to support you. Let’s make this year about what truly matters—your well-being.